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Premature Ejaculation
First of all, it should
be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants
to.Sex therapists prefer to use the term Involuntary
Ejaculation since the key to controlling it revolves around
gaining voluntary control.Premature Ejaculation ranks as one
of the top male sex problems.
The following are some
tips and exercises that will assist you in learning to control
this problem:
For starters, you might drink a glass
of wine before having sex. Alcohol may relax you just enough
to delay your ejaculation. Or there's the old tried and
true practice of masturbating a few hours before making
love. If you "take care of your business" early (Watch
Theres Something About Mary again), it will take you longer
to ejaculate when the time comes to do it with your partner.
The best method for reducing the chances of premature
ejaculation is one that we mentioned in the previous section
- Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze. Review
our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you've
forgotten where these muscles are located. Strong PC
muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car-
by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the
same way you use your brakes to control speed. In the
broadest terms of how to apply this muscle when making love,
you prolong orgasms by a simulation of "stopping your
urination in midstream". Learn the powers of these
muscles and how to use them. They will work wonders in
the bedroom!
Masters and Johnson developed a method called The
Squeeze Technique to help with premature ejaculation.Its
fairly simple.When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm,
withdraw your penis from the vagina.Then place the first 2
fingers of either hand on the underside of the penis, place
your thumb on the top, and then squeeze. You can do this
yourself, or you can have your partner squeeze the head of the
penis between her thumb and fingers. Since your penis is
erect, it wont really hurt if she gives it an intense
squeeze.
An old Taoist method for delaying ejaculation
is performed by Pressing The Million Dollar Point. This
Point is located on your perineum just in front of the
anus.You will feel a slight indentation when you push at the
right spot.When you approach ejaculation, take your finger and
push it up into the Million Dollar Point, all the way to the
first joint of your finger.This will help delay ejaculation by
interrupting the ejaculatory reflex.This technique is great
because you can use it without having to withdraw your penis
from the vagina.
Another simple method is called Scrotal
Tugging.As the name implies, you simply pull your
testicles away from your body to delay ejaculation.This is
accomplished by circling the top of your scrotal sac with your
thumb and forefinger, then pulling down firmly.
You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual
pleasure without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the
feelings that precede your orgasm. There is an exercise you
can try called The "One to Ten" Approach. Imagine
that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are just
starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate.
Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your Point
Of No Return. Try masturbating. When you reach your
magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate subside.
Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times.
Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can
ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are
able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15
minutes.
Finally, the oldest, simplest & best
method for learning ejaculatory control is called the
Locking Method (or Stop-Start Method). When
having sex, if you feel yourself becoming too excited...
simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and pull back so
that only the head of your penis remains inside her.
Then just remain motionless for 15 - 30 seconds. Wait
for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off.
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