Approaching
Women
O.K., you’ve spotted her across
the crowded room. In your mind, you’re confident that
she’s the “one”. You slowly make your way to her.
Your heart is pounding. Your palms are sweating.
You reach her…. and then…
You open your mouth. You blow it! No second
chances, bub.
So what do you say? How do you act? The following
10 tips are recommended by women on how the man should first
approach her. You’d be wise to read these.
Everyone knows… the woman is always right!
Tip #1: Don’t request a date
immediately. Wait until a conversation first occurs
before asking her out.
For God’s sake, at least find out her name first!
If she doesn’t know who in the world you are… no matter how
nice, charming or goodlooking you may be, chances are VERY
slim that she’s going to want to go out with a complete
stranger.
Tip #2: Don’t pounce upon her the minute that
she walks into the place.
A woman wants to become accustomed to her new
surroundings, have a drink, talk to friends or relax before
being rushed by a man who descends on her like a vulture to
prey. Let her start enjoying herself before making your
first move.
Tip #3: Don’t overdo it with flattery or
flowery compliments.
“Your eyes light up the room like moonlight on still
waters...
Pleeeeease! Even if you’re sincere when throwing
her a line like that. she’s going to have a tough time
swallowing it. Compliments are all well and good, but
don’t overdo it. When you DO say something nice, go for
a nice casual comment like “You have a great smile” as opposed
to “Nice rack ya got there!”.
Tip #4: If buying her a drink, don’t expect a
miracle.
She may say “thank you”, but even that’s no
guarantee. Better to send her a drink anonymously.
This conjures up an element of mystery or intrigue that can
inspire her to “investigate” the sender and personally thank
you. This can lead to a conversation which can lead to…
whatever.
Tip #5: When approaching a group of women,
don’t hit on one after another.
Use your head. Every woman wants to feel
special. If she sees you going from woman to woman like
Musical Chairs, that “special” factor is tossed right out the
window.
Tip #6: Don’t be desperate, overanxious or
pushy. Respect her space and don’t get grabby or
physical.
So many men ignore this rule. There’s a big
difference between being pleasantly persistant and being an
absolute nuisance. Keep your encounter with her conversational
and friendly. Don’t ruin it by putting your arm around
her. You may think you’re suave and debonair.
Chances are, she thinks you’re an asshole.
Tip #7: Ask for her phone number ONLY if you
plan on using it.
If you’re lucky enough to actually get her phone number
on a napkin, your job is only half complete. Dial her
up. She wouldn’t give you her number if she didn’t want you to
call her.
Tip #8: Ask her out at least two or three days
in advance.
Don’t try to rush the date. This wreaks of
desperation. Play it cool, boy. Good things come to
those who wait.
Tip #9: Don’t ask her to go away with you on a
vacation, to a wedding or an office function.
You’ve just met her! She barely knows you, so a
trip to Tahiti or your cousin’s barmitzvah are not prime
choices for a first date.
Tip #10: Spend the money on breath mints.
Otherwise, you’ll never get past “hello”.
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