Initiating Anal Sex
Easing a
woman into anal sex can be difficult. Many women dislike anal
sex, even the NOTION of anal sex, simply because they believe
it hurts. This, however, should not be the case. The two
fundamental key things to remember about anal sex are
lubrication and tenderness.
The anal region has many nerve endings just like the
vagina or penis, so it have a vast potential for pleasure.
Pressure and fullness in the rectum feels good to some women,
just like fullness in the vagina. Deep penetration can also
stimulate the G-Spot.
Before attempting anal sex with your partner, make sure
that (1) shes agreeable to it, and (2) shes the one in
control. Unless shes completely relaxed and youre taking it
easy, it really can hurt. But if performed correctly, she may
be surprised by the extremely strong sexual sensation that it
can provide. A good male lover can make the woman climax in
anal sex by stimulating her genitals with his hand. Anal sex
is also great for spicing up a boring sex life. Although anal
sex is generally associated with roughness and harshness, it
should in fact be loving and gentle.
Lubricants are highly recommended for anal sex. Stick
with a water-based lubricant! A good quality water soluble
lubricant must ALWAYS be used. Never apply a vaseline-type
petroleum jelly. Its also recommended that you use a condom,
even if youre certain she has no disease. Due to natural
reasons, there are a lot of bacteria in her anal region that
can make the penis swell and catch infection.
You should realize that anal tissue is thinner and more
delicate than highly elastic vaginal tissue. Lengthy foreplay
is essential to ease your partner into a state of relaxation.
Any anxiety she has can cause her to reflexively clinch her
sphincters, which contracts the anus and make entry difficult
or painful.
While in a sensual mood, after a round of foreplay or
regular sex, you might start off by slowly sliding a
well-lubricated finger inside her ass. Move it slowly, slide
it in and out.. allow her to adjust to the feeling and relax.
Consider the size of your penis relative to your finger. You
might allow her to adjust to two fingers, after starting off
with one. Obviously fingernails should be short and smooth,
without sharp edges.
When you think shes accepting of a penis inside her
anus, either partner should gently apply lubricant along the
crack of her anus, and slowly work it into the crevice. Then
the man should put the tip of his well-lubricated penis at her
anus and SLOWLY penetrate it. Hold it there! Allow her to
breathe deeply and relax. When shes ready, let her bear down
on you. Hold still until she gets used to it.
With regard for the womans comfort, thrusting should
be gentle and slow. Take your time, make no quick movements,
and it will work greatly. Urge her to speak up at the
slightest discomfort. The actual act should not be very long,
at least until her body is used to the activity. With time,
her ass will get used to the thrusting and feel much more
comfortable during anal sex.
NOTE: Which position you use for anal
sex is best left to the womans discretions. Many women prefer
to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Or she
may rather lie on her stomach or side, or be penetrated doggie
style. Let her decide.
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